See the good

“To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow – this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage

What a perfect quote !

The truth is , that none of us are perfect and so to love each other even though we are flawed is key !

We can’t expect the person we married will always be exactly what we want them to be is unreasonable !

Gratitude is key ! Appreciate the little things they do and say thank you for all those little things !

You may be surprised by the results , your partner will do more for you to say thank you for !

Give it a go !

“Women only nag when they feel unappreciated.”
― Louis de Bernières, Corelli’s Mandolin


Sing when you’re losing !

So Ireland have gone out of the European championship hammered by Spain and Croatia .

The first team out of the tournament but still with a game to go .

The fans had spent all this time plotting and planning their trip to Poland .

They had spent all the money they had . They had borrowed all the money they could to go .

The dejection was palpable back home but we were surrounded by the hustle and bustle of the pub .

We didn’t hear the pride , the positivity in the stadium that night ! The voices in that polish night carried irish pride around the stadium and from the looks of u tube the world too !!

I note this old irish saying which is apt I regard to the singing

“It is easy to be pleasant when life flows by like a song, but the man worth while is the one who will smile when everything goes dead wrong. For the test of the heart is trouble, and it always comes with years, and the smile that is worth the praises of earth is the smile that shines through the tears.”

irish fans singing


What to you guys do to keep your marriage fresh ? It can be difficult to keep positive .
Life is busy with children , work , household chores , its easy to only focus on the irritating things your partner does.

I met someone recently who told me that the noise that her husband makes when eating an apple is enough to drive her to murder ! She’s taking evening primrose oil now and hoping that will help her and him !

I always say to remember what you fell in love with .It can be very difficult sometimes especially if they are eating an apple ! Remember what you fell in love with !! Put pictures of you as a couple up ! Remember the promise you made

I didn’t marry you because you were perfect. I didn’t even
marry you because I loved you. I married you because you
gave me a promise. That promise made up for your faults.
And the promise I gave you made up for mine. Two imperfect
people got married and it was the promise that made the marriage.
And when our children were growing up, it wasn’t a house that
protected them; and it wasn’t our love that protected them – it was that
Thornton Wilder, The Skin of Our Teeth

It’s good to remember things like this
What things keep you both happy ?