Friendship

Well it’s been a hell of a few months !!

My mum was diagnosed with breast cancer , she finished her radiotherapy treatment today !

She’s had surgery and radiotherapy and taken it all in her stride !!

We’ve been in a sort of cocoon for months where we could think of nothing else !

We had weeks of not knowing how things were going to go .

And now they feel quite confident that they have cured her .

What joy what bliss what an eye opener !

Throughout it all friendship was there both amongst us as family members sisters mothers daughters and with friends .

We may not have for to speak much but just knowing you had friends there made all the difference !

Thank you to all my friends both those related and not !!

We’ve come the other side and we are celebrating with a new teapot for mum and a bottle of champagne !!

Sister. She is your mirror, shining back at you with a world of possibilities. She is your witness, who sees you at your worst and best, and loves you anyway. She is your partner in crime, your midnight companion, someone who knows when you are smiling, even in the dark. She is your teacher, your defense attorney, your personal press agent, even your shrink. Some days, she’s the reason you wish you were an only child.
Barbara Alpert

A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you. – Elbert Hubbard

Friendship

Well yet again I’m reminded about the kindness of my friends and family and my appreciation of them increases a thousandfold .

I’ve been sick for 6 weeks and now am back on antibiotics again . I’m floored .!

My husband has to work away and I’m alone with my 3 beautiful children . But unfortunately I just don’t have the energy to look after them .

And yet I’m surrounded by love and help from my family and friends and have had visitors all day .

And so at the end of what could have been a very lonely and difficult I feel invigorated . Still in alot of pain but the love I’m surrounded by makes it easier to cope with .
tip for today
Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it !!

“When true friends meet in adverse hour;
‘Tis like a sunbeam through a shower.
A watery way an instant seen,
The darkly closing clouds between.”
– Sir Walter Scott

To us, family means putting your arms around each other and being there. ~Barbara Bush

We may be poor in finances or health but if we have family and friends we are richer than any millionaire .

Take some time to appreciate your family and friends .

Friendship

Over the last few days ,I have met with two really good friends . It can be difficult to keep in touch . Family ,work ,housework ,life . Real friends understand this , it’s ok to not be in touch .

However note to self ,the phone call or the catch up is so worth the five minutes . Time with friends reminds you that you are still you ,just you , not someone’s wife or mother . !

Tip for today

Text, phone , meet your friends for a cuppa ,

it isn`t about the friends you`ve known for the longest. it`s about the ones that came in & never left your side.

What do you think ,how do you make time for friends ? How do you keep in touch ?

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Praying

Been away for a while . Not physically but mentally . Been dealing with a few issues . Sickness of a friend .

It’s hit me like a truck . I feel the whole world has changed . My outlook is wallowing in the depths . I feel like I’m dragging myself through tar every day . I’m looking to my books for help to understand what I’m feeling and what we are going through .

Buddhism teaches us that life is not just about the joys it’s also about the suffering .

“Butterflies are free to fly ” , is another book I read . It says that our lives are mapped out for us , and it is our job to react to the different situations . We are to look at the curve balls that life throws at us, grab the ball and say ” so this is what you have planned for me ” ” how will I react ” .

It saying that we may not be in control of the curve ball but are in control of how we choose to react to that curve ball .

I wasn’t sure how either of these things made me feel . I don’t know if it made me feel better or worse.

I picked up a book that had been lying by my bedside for weeks. It’s called The Field by Lynne McTaggart . She had done research into healing and described an experiment ,whereby 2 groups of patients were prayed for , and the half that were prayed for did better after their surgery . Even though neither group knew that they had been prayed for .

So now I feel a bit better , a bit more connected , there is something out there connecting us . I’m looking forward to reading the rest of this to see what this connectivity she calls the field is about

I’m going back to the Buddhist basics of the here and now to get through the day . I’m concentrating on cleaning the sink and nothing else when I’m cleaning the sink . On the Hoover when I’m hoovering and trying to find something good about what I’m doing and I’m praying !

Bad days

We all have a bad day ! Today was one of them . I felt bit overwhelmed by the juggling . The working ,the bills ,the children ,the future ,the past it was all there . Tears and fears .

I have the great fortune to work with people and quite often as I help them work through their trials and tribulations . I can work through mine . Today I also turned to my fantastic friends and gor reminded of the keys .

1 stay in the here and now. Get through this moment and only this moment . It’s called the present because it’s a gift . It’s all we have . We can do nothing about the past or the future .we only have control over the here and now .

2 talk to friends . They are the family we choose for ourselves .

3 laugh .look for the humour in things . Laughing raises your energy levels releases natural endorphins ,happy hormones . I found these pictures on Facebook and I laughed . I hope you do too .

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