The world has gone mad

The last week ,the world seems to have gone mad !

Bombs in Boston , lock downs and man hunts ! Sky news on repeat in the house!

My husband up glued to the man hunt , the aftermath of those bombings .

I’ve read lots of blogs from mums that were in Boston . I’ve read about how they dealt with their beautiful children ! About how they tried to protect them from the reality that was outside their door !

And I’ve been reading today about the fear that has been left behind !

I completely understand this fear ! And yet I know in my heart of hearts that this fear is futile !

Anything can happen to us our children or our families at any time .

Car accidents, sickness, falls! Tragedy may befall any of us at any time and it doesn’t need to involve a terrorist of any kind !

It is exactly for this reason that we need to appreciate every moment that we have with our husbands ,children ,sisters,brothers,mothers and fathers ,friends ,colleagues ,the people we meet on the bus .

We can’t get this moment back and worrying about what the future may hold detracts from this moment . And this moment is the only thing that we can be sure of .

They call it the present because that’s exactly what it is a gift .

I am not afraid of tomorrow, for I have seen yesterday and I love today.
William Allen White

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Birthday girl

This day 6 years ago I was lying petrified in a hospital bed knowing that I was going to become a mother the next day .

I was petrified for a long time and found the whole transition to motherhood a scary ,soul searching ,guilty laden journey .

Looking back I was very depressed but I felt I was just a useless mother .

It’s only on recent year when I let go of the need to be right , of the need to know what I’m doing that I Veblen able to enjoy my children more ..

They have been my teachers.

I adore them to bits and love the journey we are now on !

I saw this and thought it was so true .

“No mother is ever, completely, a child’s idea of what a mother should be, and I suppose it works the other way around as well. But despite everything, we didn’t do too badly by one another, we did as well as most.”
― Margaret Atwood, The Handmaid’s Tale

I only started to enjoy being a mammy when I realised I could only do my best ,and that was going to have to be good enough !

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Changing seasons

Is that the same tree that was adorned in pink in the spring

But ,the tree needed to lose its leaves .Myself and my children mindfully walked through the leaves . The yellow,browns and the reds ,the crunch of the leaves under foot .

However having looked at the leaves today , I am in awe of the beauty of these leaves. I am in awe of the beauty of nature of the magic of the seasons .

A symphony every year .everything happens as it should and when it should .

“To be interested in the changing seasons is a happier state of mind than to be hopelessly in love with spring.”George Santanya

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Just a little something

Just a little something I saw in a book today and which I’m constantly telling myself ,,

Being a parent is fabulous but full of worry and guilt . Did I do the right thing for them ? Do I do the right thing for them . Should I work should I be at home ? Did they eat well today ? Etc..

The guilt can be endless !!

But I always say to myself all you can do is your best and that’s good enough !
I found some stuff by Louise l hay today which I thought was interesting about how we should feel about our own parents !! Takes the pressure off a bit !!

They , too , were children once.
Now is the time for me to stand up on my own two feet, to support myself . To give myself what my parents couldn’t give me. The more I learn about their childhoods , the more I understand their limitations . No one taught them how to be parents. They were living out the limitation s of their own parents . Parent issues are something we all deal with every day . So the best we can do us to live them as they are and affirm that they love us as we are . I do not use my parents as an excuse for the negative parts of my life . I bless my parents with love and release them to the happiness that is meaningful to them Louise l hay meditations to heal your life

What do you think ??

Marriage

What to you guys do to keep your marriage fresh ? It can be difficult to keep positive .
Life is busy with children , work , household chores , its easy to only focus on the irritating things your partner does.

I met someone recently who told me that the noise that her husband makes when eating an apple is enough to drive her to murder ! She’s taking evening primrose oil now and hoping that will help her and him !

I always say to remember what you fell in love with .It can be very difficult sometimes especially if they are eating an apple ! Remember what you fell in love with !! Put pictures of you as a couple up ! Remember the promise you made

I didn’t marry you because you were perfect. I didn’t even
marry you because I loved you. I married you because you
gave me a promise. That promise made up for your faults.
And the promise I gave you made up for mine. Two imperfect
people got married and it was the promise that made the marriage.
And when our children were growing up, it wasn’t a house that
protected them; and it wasn’t our love that protected them – it was that
promise.
Thornton Wilder, The Skin of Our Teeth

It’s good to remember things like this
What things keep you both happy ?