The last week ,the world seems to have gone mad !
Bombs in Boston , lock downs and man hunts ! Sky news on repeat in the house!
My husband up glued to the man hunt , the aftermath of those bombings .
I’ve read lots of blogs from mums that were in Boston . I’ve read about how they dealt with their beautiful children ! About how they tried to protect them from the reality that was outside their door !
And I’ve been reading today about the fear that has been left behind !
I completely understand this fear ! And yet I know in my heart of hearts that this fear is futile !
Anything can happen to us our children or our families at any time .
Car accidents, sickness, falls! Tragedy may befall any of us at any time and it doesn’t need to involve a terrorist of any kind !
It is exactly for this reason that we need to appreciate every moment that we have with our husbands ,children ,sisters,brothers,mothers and fathers ,friends ,colleagues ,the people we meet on the bus .
We can’t get this moment back and worrying about what the future may hold detracts from this moment . And this moment is the only thing that we can be sure of .
They call it the present because that’s exactly what it is a gift .
I am not afraid of tomorrow, for I have seen yesterday and I love today.
William Allen White
Make the most of every day !
You won’t get to live it again so live it as best you can !
I not the events have the choice to be happy today
This day 6 years ago I was lying petrified in a hospital bed knowing that I was going to become a mother the next day .
I was petrified for a long time and found the whole transition to motherhood a scary ,soul searching ,guilty laden journey .
Looking back I was very depressed but I felt I was just a useless mother .
It’s only on recent year when I let go of the need to be right , of the need to know what I’m doing that I Veblen able to enjoy my children more ..
They have been my teachers.
I adore them to bits and love the journey we are now on !
I saw this and thought it was so true .
“No mother is ever, completely, a child’s idea of what a mother should be, and I suppose it works the other way around as well. But despite everything, we didn’t do too badly by one another, we did as well as most.”
― Margaret Atwood, The Handmaid’s Tale
I only started to enjoy being a mammy when I realised I could only do my best ,and that was going to have to be good enough !
Is that the same tree that was adorned in pink in the spring
But ,the tree needed to lose its leaves .Myself and my children mindfully walked through the leaves . The yellow,browns and the reds ,the crunch of the leaves under foot .
However having looked at the leaves today , I am in awe of the beauty of these leaves. I am in awe of the beauty of nature of the magic of the seasons .
A symphony every year .everything happens as it should and when it should .
“To be interested in the changing seasons is a happier state of mind than to be hopelessly in love with spring.”George Santanya
Just a little something I saw in a book today and which I’m constantly telling myself ,,
Being a parent is fabulous but full of worry and guilt . Did I do the right thing for them ? Do I do the right thing for them . Should I work should I be at home ? Did they eat well today ? Etc..
The guilt can be endless !!
But I always say to myself all you can do is your best and that’s good enough !
I found some stuff by Louise l hay today which I thought was interesting about how we should feel about our own parents !! Takes the pressure off a bit !!
They , too , were children once.
Now is the time for me to stand up on my own two feet, to support myself . To give myself what my parents couldn’t give me. The more I learn about their childhoods , the more I understand their limitations . No one taught them how to be parents. They were living out the limitation s of their own parents . Parent issues are something we all deal with every day . So the best we can do us to live them as they are and affirm that they love us as we are . I do not use my parents as an excuse for the negative parts of my life . I bless my parents with love and release them to the happiness that is meaningful to them Louise l hay meditations to heal your life
What do you think ??
What to you guys do to keep your marriage fresh ? It can be difficult to keep positive .
Life is busy with children , work , household chores , its easy to only focus on the irritating things your partner does.
I met someone recently who told me that the noise that her husband makes when eating an apple is enough to drive her to murder ! She’s taking evening primrose oil now and hoping that will help her and him !
I always say to remember what you fell in love with .It can be very difficult sometimes especially if they are eating an apple ! Remember what you fell in love with !! Put pictures of you as a couple up ! Remember the promise you made
I didn’t marry you because you were perfect. I didn’t even
marry you because I loved you. I married you because you
gave me a promise. That promise made up for your faults.
And the promise I gave you made up for mine. Two imperfect
people got married and it was the promise that made the marriage.
And when our children were growing up, it wasn’t a house that
protected them; and it wasn’t our love that protected them – it was that
Thornton Wilder, The Skin of Our Teeth
It’s good to remember things like this
What things keep you both happy ?