friendship, relationships, sickness


Well it’s been a hell of a few months !!

My mum was diagnosed with breast cancer , she finished her radiotherapy treatment today !

She’s had surgery and radiotherapy and taken it all in her stride !!

We’ve been in a sort of cocoon for months where we could think of nothing else !

We had weeks of not knowing how things were going to go .

And now they feel quite confident that they have cured her .

What joy what bliss what an eye opener !

Throughout it all friendship was there both amongst us as family members sisters mothers daughters and with friends .

We may not have for to speak much but just knowing you had friends there made all the difference !

Thank you to all my friends both those related and not !!

We’ve come the other side and we are celebrating with a new teapot for mum and a bottle of champagne !!

Sister. She is your mirror, shining back at you with a world of possibilities. She is your witness, who sees you at your worst and best, and loves you anyway. She is your partner in crime, your midnight companion, someone who knows when you are smiling, even in the dark. She is your teacher, your defense attorney, your personal press agent, even your shrink. Some days, she’s the reason you wish you were an only child.
Barbara Alpert

A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you. – Elbert Hubbard

buddhism, children, mindfulness, sickness


My little girl has a wobbly tooth !

A huge part of me is scared , sad ,petrified !

I want to hold back time . My baby is growing up !

She is so excited ! She has shared with me all the things her friends have told her will move the process along ! She wishes she liked apples . Apparently a big bite will really speed the whole thing up !

She can expect the tooth fairy to check on the tooth tonight before she will decide how much it’s worth !

She is so happy and I feel so sad !

And yet I know from all my reading that impermanence is one of the Buddhist teachings which can help us to let go of this pain!

Nothing stays the same , we will never have this day again.

Parenthood reminds us of this every day

“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.”
― Alan Wilson Watts

“Nothing in the world is permanent, and we’re foolish when we ask anything to last, but surely we’re still more foolish not to take delight in it while we have it.”
― W. Somerset Maugham

And so I need to take my guidance from her and ride this roller coaster called life with her !

I’m going to join her dance xx




I’m struck down with laryngitis !

My voice is almost gone and my throat is a bit sore .

I’ve put together some interesting bits about laryngitis from the medical field and beyond


Skilful listening is the best remedy for loneliness, loquaciousness and laryngitis.

William Arthur ward


Is inflammation of the larynx or vocal cords


Usually viral




Alcohol particularly spirits

Associated with scratchy throat , other upper respiratory tract infection symptoms and signs fever congestion tickle in throat

red flag

Hoarseness more than 4 weeks needs investigation with chest x ray and /or ear nose and throat referral

Home remedies

Rest stop talking



Salt gargles

Humidifier or steam in shower


Garlic anti viral

Zinc lozenges anti viral

Avoid irritants

Having suffered with sore throats for so long last year and with my ongoing neck pain , I thought I might look outside the medical model for my own curiosities..

Other school of thought ,interestingly says laryngitis is

related to fear of speaking up , resentment of authority , or being so angry you can’t speak !,

What do you think ?

You should always attend your own doctor with any medical problem for advice because every situation is different



mindfulness, sickness

Living in the moment

Saw a man on the tv this morning . He has recently been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and has 6 months to live !

He said he never felt so alive the sun , the trees , food , everything is so amazing now ‘

He feels like he is tingling all over !!

It’s a pity that a terminal diagnosis is needed to appreciate life !!

We should all learn from this gentleman to appreciate life now !!

To live every day as if it’s our last .

“What day is it?”
It’s today,” squeaked Piglet.
My favorite day,” said Pooh.”
― A.A. Milne



So fed up

So here I am sick again with streptococcal throat .

It’s now been about 10 weeks and 5weeks on antibiotics .

I’m doing the right thing and I’m attending my doctor not self diagnosing .

But my goodness I am now getting very fed up .

streptococcal throat is a serious condition with many consequences if you are systemically unwell , that is have flu like symptoms with a sore throat or unilateral sore throat or are in any way unsure always see your doctor ..

I left it for 11 days until my neck swelled and I couldn’t get up off the floor before looking for help !

I fell like my other half has a pain in his backside with me being sick .

It doesn’t suit when he is so busy for their to be any interruption to the schedule and I feel floored .

What can we do ? I can’t keep up the working full time and running the household and he feels he works harder then me so he shouldn’t have to do anything in the house . I’m angry I’m annoyed ,

And then I see two messages in my emails one from the secret . A message gets sent every day a limitless quote . Today it’s about not giving out about or judging others . Or else you’ll attract more to give out about..


The good no matter how difficult and you’ll get more good out of people . He’s only trying to do his best to provide for his family ..

And a lovely piece from Susan gregg about spending two minutes every morning being grateful for what you have not what you don’t have

Any thoughts ? Any advice ?

I’m going to try both these things and see how tomorrow goes !

I’ll let you know xxx Fiona