Friendship

Well it’s been a hell of a few months !!

My mum was diagnosed with breast cancer , she finished her radiotherapy treatment today !

She’s had surgery and radiotherapy and taken it all in her stride !!

We’ve been in a sort of cocoon for months where we could think of nothing else !

We had weeks of not knowing how things were going to go .

And now they feel quite confident that they have cured her .

What joy what bliss what an eye opener !

Throughout it all friendship was there both amongst us as family members sisters mothers daughters and with friends .

We may not have for to speak much but just knowing you had friends there made all the difference !

Thank you to all my friends both those related and not !!

We’ve come the other side and we are celebrating with a new teapot for mum and a bottle of champagne !!

Sister. She is your mirror, shining back at you with a world of possibilities. She is your witness, who sees you at your worst and best, and loves you anyway. She is your partner in crime, your midnight companion, someone who knows when you are smiling, even in the dark. She is your teacher, your defense attorney, your personal press agent, even your shrink. Some days, she’s the reason you wish you were an only child.
Barbara Alpert

A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you. – Elbert Hubbard

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See the good

“To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow – this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage

What a perfect quote !

The truth is , that none of us are perfect and so to love each other even though we are flawed is key !

We can’t expect the person we married will always be exactly what we want them to be is unreasonable !

Gratitude is key ! Appreciate the little things they do and say thank you for all those little things !

You may be surprised by the results , your partner will do more for you to say thank you for !

Give it a go !

“Women only nag when they feel unappreciated.”
― Louis de Bernières, Corelli’s Mandolin

Hold my hand

As I walked my 6 year old daughter to school today , we walked and chatted as we usually do .

The sun was shining , the birds were singing as I took her beautiful soft hand in my hand , and savoured every minute !

Her hand is so small , and it won’t always be so small ! It won’t always fit in mine !

She won’t always want to hold my hand !

So we walked , and I just held her hand and wrapped the memory up in pretty pink paper , to save it in my mind !

I went to work and savoured this early morning walk !

We can often wander through life , rushing from home to school to work ,
and not really take the time to appreciate the here and now !

I went to my mums after work , she minds the kids on a Tuesday , and I shared my thoughts with her and I took her hand and I held it ! It mightn’t be as small as it used to be but I hope it felt as nice !!

“Once I had her hand, I never wanted to let go of her.”

― Ottilie Weber, Family Ties

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Mothers day

Read in mass on mothers day not a dry eye in the house !!

“Why are you crying?”, a young boy asked his Mom.

“Because I’m a woman,” she told him. “I don’t understand,” he said.

His Mom just hugged him and said, “And you never will, but that’s O.K.”… Later the little boy asked his father, “Why does Mom seem to cry for no reason?”. “All women cry for no reason,” was all his Dad could say… The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry.

Finally he put in a call to God and when God got back to him, he asked “God, why do women cry so easily?”

GOD answered…

When I made woman, I decided she had to be special. I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet, made her arms gentle enough to give comfort…I gave her the inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times will come even from her own children.

I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going and take care of her family and friends, even when everyone else gives up, through sickness and fatigue without complaining…I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances. Even when her child has hurt her badly…

She has the very special power to make a child’s boo-boo feel better and to quell a teenager’s anxieties and fears…I gave her strength to care for her husband, despite faults and I fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart…I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly.

For all of this hard work, I also gave her a tear to shed. It is hers to use whenever needed and it is her only weakness.

When you see her cry, tell her how much you love her, and all she does for everyone, and even though she may still cry, you will have made her
heart feel good.
By: Kapil Sharma

ACOD

I can’t believe I get to almost 40 and only now discover I’m part of a club .

ACOD adult children of divorced parents . I’m one of them . I have been for many years now but it’s only in recent times that I’ve realised I have a name and that a part of this club !!

It feels quite good to have a name after all these years just thinking I was mad alone !!!

The upset , the dramas are never ending !!

I see from my latest research that adult children have a much harder time as they are quite often expected to take sides and are treated badly if they don’t .

That’s always been the case with myself and my siblings and because there was infidelity involved the hurt and the anger is ongoing !!

Sometimes you can quite literally feel like a taut pulled elastic band between the two parents . And if you were let go you might actually fly away like a real elastic band would !!

I found this on line and cried and cried and cried after our most recent drama !

The problem is there is still a child in all of us and we as adults still hurt the same as children do even if our parents don’t realise it !!

Divorce
What I need from my mom and dad: A child’s list of wants
I need both of you to stay involved in my life. Please write letters, make phone calls, and ask me lots of questions. When you don’t stay involved, I feel like I’m not important and that you don’t really love me.
Please stop fighting and work hard to get along with each other. Try to agree on matters related to me. When you fight about me, I think that I did something wrong and I feel guilty.
I want to love you both and enjoy the time that I spend with each of you. Please support me and the time that I spend with each of you. If you act jealous or upset, I feel like I need to take sides and love one parent more than the other.
Please communicate directly with my other parent so that I don’t have to send messages back and forth.
When talking about my other parent, please say only nice things, or don’t say anything at all. When you say mean, unkind things about my other parent, I feel like you are expecting me to take your side.
Please remember that I want both of you to be a part of my life. I count on my mom and dad to raise me, to teach me what is important, and to help me when I have problems.
Source: University of Missouri