friendship, relationships, sickness


Well it’s been a hell of a few months !!

My mum was diagnosed with breast cancer , she finished her radiotherapy treatment today !

She’s had surgery and radiotherapy and taken it all in her stride !!

We’ve been in a sort of cocoon for months where we could think of nothing else !

We had weeks of not knowing how things were going to go .

And now they feel quite confident that they have cured her .

What joy what bliss what an eye opener !

Throughout it all friendship was there both amongst us as family members sisters mothers daughters and with friends .

We may not have for to speak much but just knowing you had friends there made all the difference !

Thank you to all my friends both those related and not !!

We’ve come the other side and we are celebrating with a new teapot for mum and a bottle of champagne !!

Sister. She is your mirror, shining back at you with a world of possibilities. She is your witness, who sees you at your worst and best, and loves you anyway. She is your partner in crime, your midnight companion, someone who knows when you are smiling, even in the dark. She is your teacher, your defense attorney, your personal press agent, even your shrink. Some days, she’s the reason you wish you were an only child.
Barbara Alpert

A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you. – Elbert Hubbard



Well yet again I’m reminded about the kindness of my friends and family and my appreciation of them increases a thousandfold .

I’ve been sick for 6 weeks and now am back on antibiotics again . I’m floored .!

My husband has to work away and I’m alone with my 3 beautiful children . But unfortunately I just don’t have the energy to look after them .

And yet I’m surrounded by love and help from my family and friends and have had visitors all day .

And so at the end of what could have been a very lonely and difficult I feel invigorated . Still in alot of pain but the love I’m surrounded by makes it easier to cope with .
tip for today
Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it !!

“When true friends meet in adverse hour;
‘Tis like a sunbeam through a shower.
A watery way an instant seen,
The darkly closing clouds between.”
– Sir Walter Scott

To us, family means putting your arms around each other and being there. ~Barbara Bush

We may be poor in finances or health but if we have family and friends we are richer than any millionaire .

Take some time to appreciate your family and friends .

friendship, relationships

The universe has spoken

Driving along in the car this morning heard this song by baz luhrman . I hadn’t heard it in years . It made me laugh and cry . It had lots of helpful advice .

I often think if you are trying to live life minute to minute you can get signs . The universe can speak to you songs , signs .

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it.
The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own
meandering experience.
I will dispense this advice now.
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth, oh never mind, you will never understand the power and the beauty of your youth until they’ve faded.
But trust me, in twenty years, you will look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now, how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine. Don’t worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as affective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind. The kind that blindsides you at 4 PM on some idle Tuesday.
Do one thing every day that scares you.
Don’t be reckless with other peoples’ hearts; don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours. Floss.
Don’t waste your time on jealously, sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind.
The race is long and in the end, it’s only with yourself.
Remember compliments you receive, forget the insults.
If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.
Keep your old love letters; throw away your old bank statements.
Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives,
some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don’t. Get plenty of calcium.
Be kind to knees, you’ll miss them when they’re gone.
Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t.
Maybe you’ll have children, maybe you won’t.
Maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the “Funky Chicken” on your 75th wedding anniversary.
Whatever you do, don’t congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself either.
Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else’s.
Enjoy your body.
Use it every way you can, don’t be afraid of it or what other people think of it. It’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own.
Even if you have nowhere to do it but your own living room.
Read the directions even if you don’t follow them.
Do not read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.

Brother and sister together will make it through,
Some day a spirit will take you and guide you there,
I know you’ve been hurting, but I’ve been waiting to be there for you
And I’ll be there just helping you out, whenever I ca-a-an

Get to know your parents.
You never know when they’ll be gone for good.
Be nice to your siblings.
They are your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Understand that friends come and go.
But a precious few, who should hold on.
Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle, for as the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were young.

Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard.
Live in northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.
Accept certain alible truths: prices will rise, politicians will philander, you too will get old and when you do, you’ll fanaticise that when you were young, prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.
Respect your elders.
Don’t expect anyone else to support you.
Maybe you have a trust fund, maybe you’ll have a wealthy spouse but you’ll never know when either one will run out.
Don’t mess too much with your hair or by the time you’re forty, it will look eighty-five.
Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it.
Advice is a form of nostalgia.
Dispensing it is a way of wishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling for more than it’s worth.
But trust me on the sunscreen.


Everybody’s Free, oh yeah, to feel good, ohhhhh, to feel good.

What signs did the universe send you guys today ??

What do you think of this song ??



Over the last few days ,I have met with two really good friends . It can be difficult to keep in touch . Family ,work ,housework ,life . Real friends understand this , it’s ok to not be in touch .

However note to self ,the phone call or the catch up is so worth the five minutes . Time with friends reminds you that you are still you ,just you , not someone’s wife or mother . !

Tip for today

Text, phone , meet your friends for a cuppa ,

it isn`t about the friends you`ve known for the longest. it`s about the ones that came in & never left your side.

What do you think ,how do you make time for friends ? How do you keep in touch ?


emotions, friendship


Been away for a while . Not physically but mentally . Been dealing with a few issues . Sickness of a friend .

It’s hit me like a truck . I feel the whole world has changed . My outlook is wallowing in the depths . I feel like I’m dragging myself through tar every day . I’m looking to my books for help to understand what I’m feeling and what we are going through .

Buddhism teaches us that life is not just about the joys it’s also about the suffering .

“Butterflies are free to fly ” , is another book I read . It says that our lives are mapped out for us , and it is our job to react to the different situations . We are to look at the curve balls that life throws at us, grab the ball and say ” so this is what you have planned for me ” ” how will I react ” .

It saying that we may not be in control of the curve ball but are in control of how we choose to react to that curve ball .

I wasn’t sure how either of these things made me feel . I don’t know if it made me feel better or worse.

I picked up a book that had been lying by my bedside for weeks. It’s called The Field by Lynne McTaggart . She had done research into healing and described an experiment ,whereby 2 groups of patients were prayed for , and the half that were prayed for did better after their surgery . Even though neither group knew that they had been prayed for .

So now I feel a bit better , a bit more connected , there is something out there connecting us . I’m looking forward to reading the rest of this to see what this connectivity she calls the field is about

I’m going back to the Buddhist basics of the here and now to get through the day . I’m concentrating on cleaning the sink and nothing else when I’m cleaning the sink . On the Hoover when I’m hoovering and trying to find something good about what I’m doing and I’m praying !