Arguments

Before christmas i have been wondering about family ,and the internal politics therein.

I’ve also wondered about the arguments that go on in families and how to deal with them in a better way .

It’s not unusual for relationships to break down completely and for days ,then weeksnandnyears to go by with people not speaking to one another .

This is not unusual in most families .

I’d spent time enraged with my family . I would quite like to bring my husband and children to a desert island and have contact with only one or two of them .

Why ? Because things are said that hurt people’s feelings .

Because things are not said that hurt people’s feelings .

I looked to the best place I know for solving problems in my head . I read what others have to say on the subject .

“You can choose to be right or you can choose to be happy ”

“Attachment to being right creates suffering.When you have a choice to be right, or to be kind,choose kind and watch your suffering disappear.”

– Dr Wayne Dyer, best-selling author and speaker.

“A power struggle collapses when you withdraw your energy from it. Power struggles become uninteresting to you when you change your intention from winning to learning about yourself.”

– Gary Zukav, best-selling author.

“What angers us in another person is more often than not an unhealed aspect of ourselves. If we had already resolved that particular issue,we would not be irritated by its reflection back to us.”

– Simon Peter Fuller, author.

I’m feeling a bit more in control now! I have choices !

I’m not a puppet on someone else’s strings !

And yet again , if I used the four agreements , I would not be living here in my own man made hell ,

Don’t make assumptions I should not begin to assume I know why someone did something or didn’t do something without clarifying it with them first .

Be impeccable with your word don’t say bad things about someone it doesn’t make you or them feel good !

I let all these feelings go and Christmas passed in a lovely way with fun and family all around !

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Sadness

Sadness , difficulty in relationships , hurt , anger , can’t keep everyone happy !!

Confused but I found these quotes . I think they may help .

Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better take things as they come along with patience and equanimity.
Carl Jung

Don’t Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
Miguel Angel Ruiz

Still floored

Still floored by this strep infection so not a huge amount to say but saw some really good quotes from don Miguel Ruiz of the Four agreements over last few days so thought I would share ..

And some pictures I saw that I thought would add to your days

you cannot change other people . You either love them the way they are or you don’t . You either accept them the way they are or you don’t .

there is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personal . Don Miguel Ruiz

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Aloha

I always find this ladies posts interesting and helpful every day . She studied under don Miguel Ruiz who wrote the four agreements .

Check this out

It is hard to admit, but at times we just aren’t willing to be happy. We say we want to be happy and then we make choices that create
anything except happiness. We know we need more rest or exercise
or to eat less or be kinder to ourselves and we don’t do it. So we judge ourselves and vow to do better and we don’t.

When we are caught in that sort of pattern fighting it or judging
ourselves just doesn’t help. If on the other hand we just ask for the
willingness to clearly see what the underlying intent is we are one step closer to freedom.

We start out wanting to be happy. Then that desire goes through our
filter system and out comes misery. It’s like reaching for something
underwater – it isn’t where our eyes tell us it is. All that is necessary is for us to become willing to let go of those old messages. Allow for the possibility that a part of your filter system precludes happiness. Ask for the willingness to be willing to be willing to release all the beliefs that bind you. Once you willing become aware of that piece and let it go happiness and freedom is yours.

With love and aloha,
Susan

Whatever you focus your attention on you get more of
So focus on love and gratitude – see what happens!

Susan gregg