Mothers day

Read in mass on mothers day not a dry eye in the house !!

“Why are you crying?”, a young boy asked his Mom.

“Because I’m a woman,” she told him. “I don’t understand,” he said.

His Mom just hugged him and said, “And you never will, but that’s O.K.”… Later the little boy asked his father, “Why does Mom seem to cry for no reason?”. “All women cry for no reason,” was all his Dad could say… The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry.

Finally he put in a call to God and when God got back to him, he asked “God, why do women cry so easily?”

GOD answered…

When I made woman, I decided she had to be special. I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet, made her arms gentle enough to give comfort…I gave her the inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times will come even from her own children.

I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going and take care of her family and friends, even when everyone else gives up, through sickness and fatigue without complaining…I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances. Even when her child has hurt her badly…

She has the very special power to make a child’s boo-boo feel better and to quell a teenager’s anxieties and fears…I gave her strength to care for her husband, despite faults and I fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart…I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly.

For all of this hard work, I also gave her a tear to shed. It is hers to use whenever needed and it is her only weakness.

When you see her cry, tell her how much you love her, and all she does for everyone, and even though she may still cry, you will have made her
heart feel good.
By: Kapil Sharma

It all looks different in the light

We got up at 230 this morning to walk 5 km for a charity!

We started walking at 4 in the dark and watched the sun rise and heard the dawn chorus of birdsong .

The walk is done every year for the charity pieta house who look after people with suicidal thoughts to try and prevent suicide .

There were people there who were walking in memory of lost loved ones who had been lost to suicide .

It was emotional , it was strange being up in the middle of the night. It was beautiful to watch the sun rise and hear the birds waking up .

The walk is called darkness into light . I thought it symbolised hope ,light at the end of the tunnel .

The darkness of depression feels like a hole out of which you can’t come !

We walked around a park for an hour and it was only when we were walking back to the car that we noticed deer , a strange little house , and even a pheasant .

My sister said on the way back to the car “my god everything looks so different in the light ”

And I realised the importance of that comment .

We had been in the same place but in the dark we didn’t see the beauty that was around us !

Being depressed before , I know how it feels and that’s exactly it . You are so lost in the dark space in your head that you can’t even see what’s in front of your nose !

When you rise in the morning, give thanks for the light, for your life, for your strength. Give thanks for your food and for the joy of living. If you see no reason to give thanks, the fault lies in yourself.

It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.
Aristotle Onassis

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The world has gone mad

The last week ,the world seems to have gone mad !

Bombs in Boston , lock downs and man hunts ! Sky news on repeat in the house!

My husband up glued to the man hunt , the aftermath of those bombings .

I’ve read lots of blogs from mums that were in Boston . I’ve read about how they dealt with their beautiful children ! About how they tried to protect them from the reality that was outside their door !

And I’ve been reading today about the fear that has been left behind !

I completely understand this fear ! And yet I know in my heart of hearts that this fear is futile !

Anything can happen to us our children or our families at any time .

Car accidents, sickness, falls! Tragedy may befall any of us at any time and it doesn’t need to involve a terrorist of any kind !

It is exactly for this reason that we need to appreciate every moment that we have with our husbands ,children ,sisters,brothers,mothers and fathers ,friends ,colleagues ,the people we meet on the bus .

We can’t get this moment back and worrying about what the future may hold detracts from this moment . And this moment is the only thing that we can be sure of .

They call it the present because that’s exactly what it is a gift .

I am not afraid of tomorrow, for I have seen yesterday and I love today.
William Allen White

Birthday girl

This day 6 years ago I was lying petrified in a hospital bed knowing that I was going to become a mother the next day .

I was petrified for a long time and found the whole transition to motherhood a scary ,soul searching ,guilty laden journey .

Looking back I was very depressed but I felt I was just a useless mother .

It’s only on recent year when I let go of the need to be right , of the need to know what I’m doing that I Veblen able to enjoy my children more ..

They have been my teachers.

I adore them to bits and love the journey we are now on !

I saw this and thought it was so true .

“No mother is ever, completely, a child’s idea of what a mother should be, and I suppose it works the other way around as well. But despite everything, we didn’t do too badly by one another, we did as well as most.”
― Margaret Atwood, The Handmaid’s Tale

I only started to enjoy being a mammy when I realised I could only do my best ,and that was going to have to be good enough !

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Help

Can someone help me ? For the last 2 weeks everything around me seems to be breaking down !

We have 2 cars both of us work and so the school runs etc need the stay at home parent with a car also ! Just after Xmas got in neither worked !

Now my cars radio and all electronics are not working when I’m in the car !! But ok when my husband gets in ??

In work my. Imputed kept crashing Nd closing down and restarting itself ! Functions which normally worked stopped working ? Everyone else’s were fine !!

I was in great form until yesterday I kept laughing saying I think the universe is trying to tell me something but today I feel completely exhausted and drained ??

Has anyone ever heard of anything like this ??

I’m a scientist but u think there is more to this than coincidence of bad luck ???

Arguments

Before christmas i have been wondering about family ,and the internal politics therein.

I’ve also wondered about the arguments that go on in families and how to deal with them in a better way .

It’s not unusual for relationships to break down completely and for days ,then weeksnandnyears to go by with people not speaking to one another .

This is not unusual in most families .

I’d spent time enraged with my family . I would quite like to bring my husband and children to a desert island and have contact with only one or two of them .

Why ? Because things are said that hurt people’s feelings .

Because things are not said that hurt people’s feelings .

I looked to the best place I know for solving problems in my head . I read what others have to say on the subject .

“You can choose to be right or you can choose to be happy ”

“Attachment to being right creates suffering.When you have a choice to be right, or to be kind,choose kind and watch your suffering disappear.”

– Dr Wayne Dyer, best-selling author and speaker.

“A power struggle collapses when you withdraw your energy from it. Power struggles become uninteresting to you when you change your intention from winning to learning about yourself.”

– Gary Zukav, best-selling author.

“What angers us in another person is more often than not an unhealed aspect of ourselves. If we had already resolved that particular issue,we would not be irritated by its reflection back to us.”

– Simon Peter Fuller, author.

I’m feeling a bit more in control now! I have choices !

I’m not a puppet on someone else’s strings !

And yet again , if I used the four agreements , I would not be living here in my own man made hell ,

Don’t make assumptions I should not begin to assume I know why someone did something or didn’t do something without clarifying it with them first .

Be impeccable with your word don’t say bad things about someone it doesn’t make you or them feel good !

I let all these feelings go and Christmas passed in a lovely way with fun and family all around !

Power poses

Got sent this link today . It’s amazing .

It’s going to change everything . It makes perfect sense .

I go to a meeting with other doctors every month . I normally cower on my way in , I can feel my heart in my mouth . My heart rate going up . I can hear a wobble in my voice when I speak . Tomorrow I’m going to power pose in the bathroom before I go in .

Let’s see what a difference it makes .

Body language can change your life